The wonderful thing about performing on the radio with my wife Melody was that people couldn’t see the grimace on my face when she kicked the crap out of me when we disagreed – about politics or religion, of course.
I loved our show. It was called “He Said, She Said.” We named it that because Melody always got the last word. Every Wednesday at noon, Mel and I would get together in the KLAY-AM studio in Lakewood, Washington and discuss religion and politics. Not the boring way. Not the typical “here is my opinion, who cares about yours” way that you hear today. When we discussed religion and politics, we did it in a way that only a husband and wife could do it.
Indeed, we did it in a way that two people who love each other should do it. Although we would argue our positions ferociously for an hour, we never took the show home with us. Okay, Mel or I might run to the library, or a computer and research like crazy so we could disprove the other one on our next show. But we never held hard feelings because of what we said to each other on the show.
Of course, we were more than husband and wife. She was a US Marine, a liberal, an attorney. I am ex-Navy, more conservative and I made my living in government and politics. Our personalities are quite different too. Neither of us was unabashed about speaking our minds, even in front of live audiences. People really enjoyed the banter.
Often times, we would be sitting at a restaurant or shopping at a store and someone would come up and scold me or encourage her on an issue that we had discussed on our show. I think listeners were often encouraged that a husband and wife could disagree openly and honestly and still remain close, personal friends. Just like a husband and wife should be able to do. It has taken many years of practice to put our personal puzzle pieces together to make a marital picture of love, trust and friendship. We work very hard at it each and every day. No kidding! We have been BFF’s for nearly 30 years and happily married for more than 15 of those years.
We did our show for nearly three years. We’ve missed those radio moments. We still argue about religion and politics. We still disagree, speaking our minds with wild abandon in an open and honest fashion. But there was something magical about being on the radio with my BFF when we did it. There was something special that we shared with other people when we were on the airwaves.
But then, it’s not about me.